Tips for raising the Self-esteem of Others
1.
Immediately
stop doing or saying anything that lowers another’s self-esteem. At the very
least, be neutral. Keep silent. Say nothing. Destructive criticism of any kind
lowers self-esteem faster than any other behaviour. More relationships and
personalities are damaged by destructive criticism than by all other negative
influences put together.
The best decision
you can ever make is to stop criticising other people. Eliminate destructive
criticism of any kind from your vocabulary and from your conversations. Become a positive person by only saying things that build people up rather than
tearing them down.
2. Almost
all negative emotions begin with judging and blaming others. The reason you
avoid criticising is therefore a purely selfish one. Being positive and
supportive of others, or atleast neutral, enables you to remain positive andcheerful yourself. Refusing to criticise
allows you to remain detached rather than becoming emotionally involved.
3. It is
easy to get into the habit of criticising and fault – finding. Many people’s
entire conversation revolves around badmouthing and criticisms. However, you
must break this habit if you are really determined to develop the kind of
personality you need to get to the top. You must stop running people down or
speaking negatively about them for any reason. No matter what a person has
done, or how wrong you think it is, keep your opinions to yourself. Make a game
of finding reasons not to criticise or condemn. Make up excuses for the other
person, wish him or her well, and when appropriate, forgive him and let him off
the hook.
4. Another
behaviour that undermines self-esteem in both the speaker and the listener is
the habit of complaining. Many people have the habit of complaining. They speak
like- “How bad it is that he has done this” or “How bad it is the prices are so
high” “How bad it is that the business is so bad. And then they speak more
negative talk with each other. The habit of finding things to complain things
to complain about attracts other complainers into your life and your social
circle.
By the Law of Concentration, which states that
whatever you dwell upon grows in your reality, the more you complain, the more
you find to complain about, and the more people you find to complain with.
Real
men and women never complain. If they have a problem and there is something
they can do about it, they get busy and take action. If there is nothing they
can do about it, they simply say, “What cannot be cured must be endured.” They
then get busy doing what they can, but they never, never complain.
The truth is that no one is really interested in
your complains anyways. People have problems of their own, and many of their
problems are a lot of worse than yours. Probably 80% of the people you talk to
about your complains don’t care, and the other 20% are kind of glad you have
got them.
Conclusion –
Resolve to halt
all criticising, condemning and complaining. If you simply eliminate negativity
of all kinds from your conversation, that alone will have a powerful, positive
impact on your relationships. You will feel better about yourself and so will
everyone else.
(Motivational Speaker and Corporate
Trainer)
Shikhar
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